
My house keys. Shortly before I went inside to hand them off to new homeowners after a 44 month journey.
On September 1, 2008 my family gathered on our front lawn in Anderson Indiana for a monumental event in our lives. We prayed a short prayer for what was about to take place, and we pounded a For Sale sign in the yard.
Around noon or so on Monday, April 30th, 2012…I handed off the keys to new homeowners. 44 months, almost to the day.
Was that our plan? Well…not exactly. In fact it couldn’t be further from any plans we had in mind.
We had experienced a tremendous 16 year season of ministry and had come through the emotional decision to uproot and jump headfirst into a new arena for us, one that had ministry potential and the opportunity to continue to pour into the lives of others. Whether we’re all that good at it or not, we felt like we were supposed to be doing this very thing with our lives. Adding to that, we firmly believed we could immerse ourselves in this new environment and our kids could thrive. Though we don’t always get everything right, that part of the choice has been validated. We did what we were feeling led to do, and God has honored the decision, time and time again.
A big door was opened and we stepped through the threshold. But there was still had a door that needed to be closed and put behind us. I don’t want to overstate our particular dilemma, or compare it to any number of more significant hurdles that people face in life. I have many in my life who deal with cancer and other illnesses. I have friends who have buried loved ones, some their own children. Many others who have endured any number of tragedies in their lives. Never would I put our 3 1/2 year house journey in the same category, and many of those situations have helped me keep perspective throughout the whole ordeal. Or at least try.
I won’t get into all of the drama of our rollercoaster experience with this house. But the basic synopsis that many people face right now has been our reality: a buyer’s market in a depressed home market in a city in middle America where all of the jobs have moved elsewhere. So not many are looking for a house to start with. And because there are a glut of homes for sale, buyers can be as picky as they want to be. And I don’t blame them at all. So when the right people finally do find you, which seems miraculous in an of itself, you can’t lose them.
I fondly remember sitting in a fishing boat for many hours with my dad and grandpa and any number of different people. The one thing I remember my dad explaining to me was that once a fish gets on the hook, you have to do whatever you can to keep it on the hook. Set the hook, reel it in. Of course, sometimes the fish got off the hook.
Maybe that analogy is a stretch, but I thought of that fishing advice off and on during the last month as we experienced a good bit of emotion, hoping this was the one, hoping we wouldn’t lose it (we had one right up to the edge of the boat many months ago….long before we drastically lowered the asking price…and we lost it). This time had to be different. Our sanity was at stake, and financially I was beginning to run out of rabbits to pull from hats.
I always said that God would get involved when He wanted to. Sure, I expected that to happen a lot sooner. But I suppose we were getting by. We were managing. We were coping. And maybe that’s the rub…a lot of ‘we.’ It was starting to become obvious that ‘we’ weren’t going to be managing, getting by, and coping much longer. So along comes a couple, and in particular a wife and a mother, who fell in love with our place. I don’t know them well. I do know they have a daughter who is both Autistic and has Cerebral Palsy. A mom who thought our house, with some alterations, would be the ideal place for that little girl to thrive. Call it what you want. I prefer to think of it as God’s timing. My timing was a lot different. His has molded me to trust Him more, and put the right family in our home.
My plans? Well, I never expected to have to take my checkbook to sell my house. I didn’t expect to borrow money so I could sell and get out of home-related debt. I certainly didn’t expect the roller coaster of emotions and frustration that bubbled up from time to time. But I never changed my expectation of God.
(Another perspective moment. In a moment of commiserating about what selling was costing me, this conversation happened at the closing table.)
Realtor: Would you like to know my record for a check written by a seller to sell his house at closing?
Me: Hmmm…I’m guessing this is going to make me feel better, isn’t it?
Realtor: 90 grand.
Perspective indeed.
















matter – wherever they are home or abroad. Some might like the adventure. I’m convinced some I’ve met along the way didn’t fit too well in the ‘institutional church’ as we know it, and found freedom (and less accountability) in a faraway land. And some of us on this side of the pond like it just because we think that if its important to God, it should be important to us.